Hi. :) I have read most of the threads here but I'm posting in hope that I can get a more specific guidance/ answer.
There have been some problems in my relationship. I've been hurt to an extreme extent and that hurt feeling caused me to say things I didn't mean. Worse still, he kept provoking me to a beyond hurt stage, way beyond breaking point. You know how when you're hurt you just do not even know what you're talking about until that moment has passed. After some time, that extreme hurt feeling started to fade away, and as it fades I start to feel guilty for certain things I said.
Well, I never said or indirectly tell that I hate him because I DON'T. But he is that kind of person who always puts words in others' mouths, always blame others SOLELY 100% in any situation, and always thinks that people hate him. Yes I've tolerated him for years. He thinks I hate him too, and that thought is stronger after the latest incident/ problem.
How do you deal with guilt? Although principle wise he has done too many unforgiveable things (but i still will forgive), I still blame myself for many many things. It's like there's something in me that keeps trying to find fault in myself. I regret a lot of things and I feel quite depressed :( Any help? Thanks.